I’ve mentioned before that sometimes it takes mind tricks to get you through the tough times when you’re pursuing a goal. My philosophy is to use any type of healthy strategy you need in order to push past the obstacles. Notice I used the term “healthy strategy.” Using tricks to motivate yourself is fine, as long as you don’t end up sabotaging yourself in the end. Choose wisely, and these little gimmicks can be just what you need to jump the hurdles you encounter. Using rewards is a fantastic motivational strategy I’d like to share with you. Let me show you why there’s nothing wrong with bribing yourself to success and how to do it right.
Choose Your Rewards
First, you want to choose the rewards you will use as your motivators. Try to pick things that are relevant to your goal and that are meaningful to you. If you have a goal to add $100 a month to your savings account, your reward shouldn’t be something that costs extra money. In this case, you might choose a free or inexpensive activity to do with a friend. If you do decide to spend money on your reward, that’s okay as long as you can honestly say you would have spent that money anyway and that you feel comfortable with the choice. For example, you might decide to buy yourself the snazzy new running shoes you’ve had your eye on because your old ones are too worn out to be effective. Those shoes are needed. They make you happy. They also serve another benefit to you, which is to help you in your fitness pursuits.
Break It Down
Next, you need to decide when to reward yourself. Giving yourself a prize every time you do the right thing is probably overkill. On the other hand, waiting until you’ve achieved the really big dream to reward yourself defeats the motivational purpose of your bribe. Timing is everything. Break your big objectives down into mini goals or small milestones. This way you have incentive that isn’t too far out of reach.
Switch It Up
Don’t get so set on the milestones you’ve chosen that you become inflexible or miss clear signs that a change needs to occur. Make sure you’re flexible enough in your approach that you can add or take away a bribe as the need arises. For example, if you’re truly struggling and feel you could quit any minute, adding a check-in point could push you past that hurdle. Just convince yourself to take one smaller step toward your target, and then you’ll earn your reward. Also, know that sometimes you’ll need to switch up your reward system if it isn’t working for you. Pay attention and be flexible to gain the most from this system.
There you have it. Bribing yourself isn’t a crime. In fact, sometimes it’s absolutely necessary if you want to get through a really bad day on the path to success. Don’t feel bad about it.
A Mentor or Coach Can Be Helpful in Reaching Your Goals Faster
I’m a big advocate of asking for help when you find yourself struggling. This is true with regard to personal issues, work challenges or relationship struggles. Trying to push through alone isn’t necessary and can make your life much more difficult than it needs to be. I know it can be hard to admit that you need some help, but doing so is often the best decision you’ll ever make. Enlisting the assistance of expert is one way you can push through the obstacles on the way to achieving your dreams. I’d like to share with you how a mentor or coach can be helpful in reaching your goals faster.
Why Seek Assistance
There are some resolutions that are simply too challenging to face on our own. We may not have the expertise to obtain the results we hope to achieve without looking to others for advice or guidance. In addition, it may simply not be necessary to try to figure it all out on our own. If you have the resources to hire an expert, you can save yourself a ton of frustration and reach your destination faster. Another benefit of bringing in someone to help is that there are times we all need a cheerleader. You may be surprised to discover just how motivational it is to have someone in your corner who knows their stuff.
Types of Helpers
The type of expert you seek will obviously depend upon your specific goal, but I’d like to talk about a few of the more common ones to help you realize what’s out there. Weight loss coaches and personal trainers are great for those seeking to improve upon their health, fitness levels and figures. Perhaps a business coach is what you need if you are looking to launch a startup company. A general life coach is someone who can help you to tackle personal development issues or interpersonal difficulties. A psychotherapist or counselor might even be someone you can turn to if you feel your mental health is holding you back from reaching your potential.
Where to Find Them
If you’re completely unsure of what type of expert you need, ask around or do a quick internet search. Your friends may be able to point you in the right direction or you could come across articles online about the type of expert you need. These sources are also good when it comes to obtaining references or testimonials. You don’t want to find out later that you’ve wasted your time and money on a scam artist or someone who doesn’t really know their stuff. It’s a wise idea to look for certification, affiliation with industry associations or other signs that the person is professional.
Obtaining a coach, guide or mentor to help you along your journey isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s smart actually, and will increase your chances of success. We all can use a little help sometimes.